However you feel, this in-depth guide gives you advice and resources on how to cope emotionally with breast cancer

1. Dealing with your emotions

There’s no right or wrong way to feel after a diagnosis of breast cancer.

You’ll probably go through many emotions, from fear, shock and anger to disbelief, sadness and numbness.

Your emotions may change day to day or even hour to hour. It’s usual to have times when you feel very low followed by times when things seem more positive.

The days and weeks immediately after a diagnosis can be particularly emotional and feel overwhelming.

Many people start to feel a bit calmer or less anxious once they have been told about their treatment plan.

1. Things you can try that may help you cope

• Think about how you coped with previous trauma or stress – you could try using these methods again now
• Use your breast care nurse – they can help you understand your diagnosis and treatment options and support you during your treatment and beyond
• Be kind to yourself – it may help to take time to rest, eat healthily, keep active and, when you can, do something you enjoy
• Talk to family and friends about how you’re feeling – you might like to read our tips on telling family and friends about your cancer, in section 4 of this page

2. If you’re feeling overwhelmed

It’s normal to feel overwhelmed when you’ve been diagnosed with cancer.

It can be hard to think straight or carry out normal everyday activities.

Some people have physical symptoms such as loss of appetite, diarrhoea or difficulty sleeping.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it can help to talk to your GP. They can offer support and medication that can help in the short term.

Many people find it easier to talk someone other than family or friends. Calling our free helpline – see the top or bottom of this page – offers you the chance to talk openly in a safe and confidential space, without worrying about upsetting or protecting those close to you.

Our helpline staff are used to talking to people who are finding it hard to cope after a breast cancer diagnosis.

We’re used to hearing all sorts of reactions – nothing is surprising or unusual.

Calls are answered by an experienced breast care nurse or one of our trained staff who have a personal or work-related experience of breast cancer.

Whatever your reason for calling, we’ll respond in a friendly, understanding and professional way.

Our helpline staff can also talk to you about your treatment and what to expect, as well as relevant services or information.

If you prefer to communicate by writing you can email our nurses – simply scroll to the bottom of this page for more information – or post your question on our forum.

3. Look after your mental health